Entertainers, their work is reaching their audience, connect..

Entertainers, their work is reaching their audience, connecting a feeling to a reaction. With adult film workers, this includes more than just acting. These people take the most personal, intimate human act and display an idea, a fantasy. Sometimes, these ideas, or scripts, are outside of what each performer may personally enjoy. Other times, boundaries are crossed. Once in a while, these preferences touch too close to a fear or a bad experience. There's a particular code of conduct expected, of any professional, in any line of work. Yes, it's okay to say no to an acting role. Yes, it's comfortably accepted to reject a co-star. Because our work involves a sexual act(s), forcing ANYTHING upon talent is considered a prosecutable CRIME. For this reason, a performer's ability to say no is highly regarded as a number one priority. Even though the work is to produce a visual fantasy, the job MUST involve willing participants. Most will accept out of sexually liberal or uninhibited comfort. Others will ignore emotional or physiological discomfort in the name of financial success. Few, however, stand their justified ground and choose the conditions that will include their intimate, emotional, and psychological security. There's NOTHING abnormal or unkind about that. NOTHING. Without passing judgment, because that's probably the most fucked up thing to do, the retaliation some performers endure, for expressing their personal standards, is unimaginably horrific. They're called racists, homophobes, frigid, or boring. Shame is cast upon these individuals, as if they've committed a foul against their colleagues or peers. This can't be further from the truth. To force someone, to engage in an act of sexual intimacy, by bullying or blacklisting similar beliefs is just as bad as forcing someone to have sex without permission. Listen, all. We all have been rejected, for one reason or another. NONE of us has been wanted by every person we sought. If that happened, we'd all be married to our first loves. I've been rejected by costars many times. I mean MANY times. It's part of the job. It's my counterparts' right to say, "No, I don't want to work with Alura." This may hurt my feelings, because it touches areas of my self esteem that pain me, BUT, it doesn't make the unsuccessfully cast co-star a bad person. What it means is that the professional, in question, knows which chemistry will yield their best performance. You've all scene pornos that didn't look quite meshed. I've made a few, myself. My point is that it's our job, our professional obligation, our responsibility, to deliver our best visual product. If we feel, because of personal beliefs, that this expectation can not be met, by collaborating with a particular individual, we are doing the audience a service by rejecting the opportunity. Instead, the scene is recast with facets that will click, promising a much more enjoyable film. No one wants to watch two(or more) terribly mismatched performers attempt to badly fake being interested in one another. In conclusion, rejection in my line of work isn't a personal insult. It's a responsible execution of professionalism. My feelings may be hurt, on occasion, because a co-star may not work with women, a Caucasian, an older female, or a heavier body type. However, that does not give anyone a right to go on a tirade, up in arms in my defense, or attack someone who decided a different scene partner would yield a better product. I'm terribly sorrowful for those who endure this backlash. Especially those who don't deserve it. Thank you, all, for taking the time to read my thoughts.